The Angst of Rejection by Aileen Florez
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” There’s nothing easy about rejection. Rejection feels lousy. It stings, increases anger, anxiety, depression, jealousy, sadness and unhealthy behaviors. It causes sweaty palms, tense voice, labored breathing, increased heart rate, and even panic attacks.
My struggles with rejection began at a young age and lasted into adulthood. I became a people pleaser. I found it impossible to say “no” even when saying yes caused inconvenience or hardships in my own life. I was so passive – oftentimes I went out of my way just to avoid confrontations. I refused to ask or even speak up for what I needed. I simply shutdown and pretended my needs don’t matter. I developed a scripted way of life acting as though everything was perfect, hiding my true self to the world. God used my fears to help me become compassionate and to make a difference in the lives of others. Despite all the ugliness of rejection, my fear turned out to be a blessing. I am so grateful for God’s grace. God used my pain and suffering to help me grow stronger, to rise above, have more faith and trust in Him. I am healed. Rejection can be a tool and a blessing that humbly brings out the best in us. Don’t allow the fear of rejection to hold you back. Instead, let’s focus on God who rescued us and learn how to love ourselves as Jesus loves us. Let us be reminded of the times and ways Jesus was brutally rejected and still loved us. Praise God, for he heals and helps us forgive those who rejected us. With God we are not rejected, we are ACCEPTED!